Your Comment is Awaiting Moderation

I’ve been really lucky with not only this blog, but also just the blogging experience, for the past year or so. I started this blog I think four, maybe even five years ago. I’d write a post or two every couple of months; really sporadically and oftentimes, not the best craftsmanship, either. It wasn’t surprising that no one really read it, let alone liked or commented on a post (and don’t even dream about something following this thing).

But, about two years ago, I really started using the blog as an outlet, sorta like an online journal that anyone could happen to read, if they wanted to. And though I didn’t make a theme to follow or brand it in any certain way, trends did start to pop up: writing, naturally. Appearance and weight and self-worth and body expectation and societal expectations and how all of those things play off one another. Your general nerdery or fangirling. Drooling over fictional characters.

I’d get a like here or a follow there, but I never really expected the blog to really go anywhere. I never really expected to get a following. That was never the goal. The goal of this blog was to be my outlet, because as much as I tried to get into journaling, I could never really do it. But blogging I enjoyed. So I went with that.

Let’s fast-forward to now.

The other day I called into work because it snowed and I’m a pansy when it comes to driving. I had “catching up on blog stuff” on the To-Do list that I’d made weeks prior, but was still suffering from my holiday hangover. I pulled up WordPress, made a glass of grape juice and went to work, catching up on comments from across all of my blogs that I had neglected to respond to for a solid month (again, the holidays were my excuse). It took me a better part of an hour to catch up and I don’t think it was until that moment that I realized I’ve…kinda accrued a following, of a sort.

I also didn’t realize how much it meant to me that I had.

But it wasn’t because of a number, which I still have no idea what the official number of followers are. It was because of the comments. The fact that I have comments to read and respond to. It’s because of that interaction and the discussions that result through the comments. The fact that someone took time out of their busy life to pause and offer thoughts of something that I had written. It doesn’t matter if I wrote it because I wanted to get it off my chest, if I needed to process something, to vent, to grieve, to fangirl, to celebrate, to nerd out. I wrote something and people were writing back.

It felt amazing.

Then, since I had the rest of the afternoon free, I scrolled through my WordPress feed and pulled up all the posts I wanted to read from the blogs that I follow, but missed due to eating too many sweet potatoes and getting wrapping paper stuck to my forehead. In the end, I had 20 tabs threatening to crash my computer if I didn’t start read and read quickly. But I was going to read them a little bit differently, this time around.

You see, usually, if I even have time to read all the posts that interest me or the blogs I try to keep up with regularly, I usually read it, have nth number of thoughts and reactions, hit “like” and then move on to whatever else life was calling me to do. I almost never paused to comment and actually write those thoughts down, even if they were as simply as, “Hey, I really enjoyed this post, because it resonated with me in X fashion. Keep it up.”

That was glaringly apparent as, when I was resolute about commenting after each post that I read this time around, I was continually greeted with the same message: “Your comment is awaiting moderation.”

There were some blogs that I have been following for months that I had never commented on once (as, to my understanding, that message only pops up when you’re posting your first comment onto said blog). And that blew me away, especially realizing how many warm fuzzies I get whenever someone comments on my blog and starts up a great discussion. Hell, I’ve actually formed entire friendships from discussions that sparked on blog comments. How could I get so stoked about people responding to my posts yet not even do the same thing for so many bloggers that I admire, who write posts I enjoy or sometimes even need?

I don’t think I’ll be able to write a comment every time I want to. Life and schedules are just not that kind. But I do plan to try and be more cognizant of the power of leaving a comment or a thought or a question; of taking that extra five minutes to put in a little more effort. Because what’s five minutes compared to someone else’s day being completely made?

Cheers.

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About Nicole Evans

Nicole Evans is a writer of fantasy and science fiction. She is currently unpublished and is working fervently to get the “un” removed from that statement. She has five completed manuscripts: a trilogy about destined heroes that fail anyway, a science fiction standalone that pits the natural desire to love against the natural instinct to kill during the extinction of the human race and a new series about a writer who can't get published and gets the chance to live a life that all writers dream. She also has two scripts done. Currently, she is about to start writing the second of a nine book series while planning two more. (If you can tell, she really likes this whole writing thing.) Considering she has run out of space for putting rejections letters up on her wall, Nicole now uses her spare time doing the typical things that nerds do: blogging, dying repeatedly during video games (which she believes is retribution for the characters’ she’s killed), wishing she was the character she is currently reading about and trying to fight off the real world by living in her own head, with varying degrees of success. Nicole has a degree in Creative Writing and a minor in Film and Media Studies, and works part-time as a supervisor in a library at the University of Kansas. View all posts by Nicole Evans

11 responses to “Your Comment is Awaiting Moderation

  • M.A. Crosbie

    You’re awesome. This is something I want to get better at too. And I’m so glad we met ‘in the comments’ 🙂

  • M.L.S.Weech

    I get it. Sometimes, I just like a blog, so I clock the like button. I don’t comment often, but I try to reciprocate. As long as you’re genuine, people will see you for who you are. Hope you had a great holiday.

    • Nicole Evans

      That’s a true point. Sometimes it is just a simple like and that’s totally great. And I also agree. I don’t want to start commenting more just to comment. I still want to say something of value. Thank you! I hope you had a lovely holiday and are feeling better!

  • philcharlesr

    It’s a good point, and I think most of us do ‘drive by’ blog reading a lot. Time to put the brakes on more often and stop to say hi 😀

  • justbmoreblog

    I so got your description of being blown away that you get comments. My only commenter is my dad, lol! So when someone I don’t know comments I’m like-holy crap, someone read this and liked it! hahaha!

  • lightafireinstead

    I’m still in the posting-every-couple-months stage. 😅 I definitely enjoy reading posts from my favorite bloggers, though! (Your lovely self included!) I didn’t realize the comment awaiting moderation thing was usually only for first-time comments. Good to know! 🙂

  • Jessica M

    Honestly, I catch up on the WP blogs every 2-3 weeks or so. There’s just so much! And nevermind that the entire act of blogging and commenting takes more time than anticipated, so I totally get where you’re coming from. I don’t mind the “likes” because it kind of tells me someone appreciated and/or read the post! It’s the folks that I do take the time out to comment on, who don’t even “like” my comment that gets under my skin. I follow a /lot/ of people on WP, but in no way do I actually read every post in my reader.

    Anyways, so glad to have run into you, and so glad that your blog is doing well — you’re a great person with a great personality! It can’t be helped, and you’re a blessing to us who know you 🙂

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